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    THE OTHER PEOPLE

     

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    The Other People

    There are now approaching eight billion other human beings living on this planet with you.

    You may not know many of them. Some research has been made into this fascinating subject.          CROWD 1

    It has been proposed, for example, that an average person may meet somewhere around eighty thousand people in their lifetime.

    Such an assumption means that statistically each of us may “know”......just  0.001% of the world population.

    This infers that none of us (we average folk), never meet the remaining 99.999% of the world population.

    Therefore we probably assume much about the bulk of the population and generalise human behaviour relying for opinion on the 0.001% people you meet.

    What it means to “know” someone is a complex idea. McCarty et al. defined “to know someone” as follows:

    “That you know them, and they know you by sight or by name; that you could contact them; that they live within the nation in which you live, and that there has been some contact (either in person, by telephone or mail) in the past 2 years.”

    Experience teaches that many people have around twelve people with whom they continually collaborate, like, or regard as family and/or close friends. These people - and the number may vary for you – are the people you allow into that outer courtyard of your castle.

    They are allowed to be there because you choose to allow them to be there, and you can, at any time, move them out if you so choose.

    But recall – they are never allowed into your private part of your castle. That is occupied by only you and your Guardian.

    Constructing this privacy within your castle does not exclude people from your love, friendship, and respect. It just means that you have a private place in which to provide for your own health and wellness. In doing this successfully, it follows that you can offer anyone that you choose, your love, friendship and respect with greater meaning and competence.

    If you offer someone any of those three most important and valuable assets, their reaction to that offer can reflect onto you.

    Let us look at this aspect in more detail.

    Consider all the other people living in the world who number around eight billion.

    Ask yourself this question:

    “How many of these eight billion people cannot do, say, think or feel anything, unless I tell them what to do, say, feel or do?”

    We feel confident that your answer will be “None”.

    In truth, you are never responsible for anything that any other person does, says, thinks or feels.

    You cannot make someone do, say, feel, or think, anything.

    Anyone may try to influence some other person, by suggestion, to do, say, think or feel something.

    That attempted persuasion may be excellently put together, or badly thought out.

    But it is entirely up to the other person and their own attitudes to the suggestions made, whether that influence succeeds or not.

    It is true that the anxiety felt by a recipient about some form of forcible coercion involving pain or threat of violence may be a positive influence on another person, but the decision to conform to the threat is still in the hands of the recipient.

    Example: “If you don’t do such and such you will be hurt!”

    The outcome of this thought is this:

    “You are never responsible for anything that another person does, says, thinks or feels. Not ever.

    We can point to the expressions often used as challenges to our well-being:

    “You made me do that!”;

    “I would not have said that if you hadn’t told me to!”;

    “You made me feel so bad and hurt me with what you said!”

    “I thought you would have done that!”

    To which the answer can be something like: “I am never responsible for what you think/do/say/feel!”

    “I thought you would give me a call to apologise!”        “I am not responsible for what you think.” (Stress goes) This can be an end, but you might add something like; “However, I do apologise”

    “I thought you loved me?” “Can’t help what you think!” (Stress goes) This can be an end, but you might add something like; “But I do love you!”

    The point we wish to make here for your benefit is that is too easy for an individual to assume or accept guilt or responsibility for something that someone else has done / said  / thought or felt.

    This response suggested removes the stress which may be added to the challenge and last for a long time!

    Without that stress, our health and wellness remain stable, we can keep comfortable within ourselves, and, if it is warranted or appropriate, we might respond along these lines:

    “Although I am not responsible for anything you think, (how might I help you?); (how can I assist you to recover?) (What can I do to make it up to you?); (Is there anything I can do to make you feel better about this?”)

    Should it be that you discover that your disposition or outlook could be considered harsh, unfeeling, or blatant, you have the opportunity to modify your attitude to a certain issue if you wish to, because you are maintaining your health and wellness, and not acting in an off-balance manner, which might cause further problems with someone with whom you may wish to stay on good terms.

    Example: “I realise that what I said was hurtful, so I apologise, and promise that I shall try never to do that again”

    If you are using these philosophies, then no guilt, shame, or regret accompanies this statement.

    Another important thing to remember is that nobody owns another human being.

    It is so easy for people who are closest to you to cause you harm by what they do, say, feel or think. The analogy we use is that of the game of hockey.

    This is a game played with potentially dangerous implements, namely sticks and hard balls, which are blasted at high speeds around a pitch, often hitting people, especially the person in goal.   HOCKEY ONE

     

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    The goalkeeper is approached as near as possible by another player and the ball is violently hit to try to get it into the goal.

     

    If a ball were to strike the goalkeeper and he or she had no protective clothing, great physical damage could result. So, the keeper is provided with helmet and face shield; padded body armour; thick protective gloves; leg-pads and boots. As a result of these precautions, if the ball hits the keeper, not much damage will ensue.

    This is just like life. Another person may strike at you with actions, words, thoughts, or feelings, and if you are unprepared, you might get severely wounded.

    But with the protection of a preventative philosophy, you are immune to such attacks. You can then dismiss the person from your life or try to assist them to modify their attitude towards you, or modify your own attitudes which ever you choose.

    Preventatism is such a philosophy.

    Learn to use it effectively, and you will be protected in all situations.

     

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    THINKING ABOUT TIME

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    It's time to think about Time   

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    THINKING ABOUT TIME:
     
    The things we have been talking about in previous sessions, are methods that have been shown to be functional and effective for the purpose. They will cost you nothing for their use. 
     
    The reason we are talking about these things, is to offer you the opportunity for better health and wellness throughout your life.
    Your life consists of periods of time, and we would like to introduce you to some ideas about time itself, which will assist in your pursuit of better health and wellness, which will result in enhanced happiness!
     
    We think of time as a river.   RIVER4
    A small river, narrow and not very deep, but always flowing and never stopping.
     
    We see it flowing from a hidden place called the future.
     
    The place cannot be seen from your castle, therefore you could for example, imagine the river flowing over some falls in front of your castle’s moat, or from around a hidden bend, coming from an unseen place.
     
    When it reaches your castle, we call it the present.
     
    The river of time becomes the present as it flows, perhaps, under a bridge within your castle.
     
    Remember, you can construct any situation you prefer in your castle.
     
    From under the bridge, the river of time flows away into the past.
     
    Looking back down the flow, and into the past, the river never stops, carrying its memories away from the present.
     
    The past is no place to stay.
     
    The advantage of this view is that one can look at the bits of the past that are pleasant to you, and ignore the parts that are unpleasant, letting them sink under the flowing water!
     
    The past cannot be changed, since once it has passed the bridge of the present, it is untouchable and unchangeable.
     
    We presume that you will agree that the past cannot be changed?
     
     You can certainly change your perception of the past, of course, but the reality of the past cannot be changed.
     
    The present is a bridge upon which we suggest you stay. It can be within your castle in some way that you design.   You could, for example meet with your Guardian in this place.BRIDGE BY RIVER
     
     The river of time constantly flowing through the present cannot be changed.
     
    The reason for this is that the moment of time we call the present passes too swiftly to be changed.
     
    The moment the water in the river comes to the bridge, it becomes the past, flowing ever onwards. 
     
     
    The river flows from a place we call the future. 
     
    Nobody can see what will happen in the future and it cannot be changed for one simple reason. It does not exist. 
     
    There is no place called the future. It exists only in our imagination. It is a function of our ability to conjure up scenes which are not real.
     
    Therefore, it can be changed only in perception or hope within our imagination.
     
    The danger of straying into the past or the future, is a tiny word that is ......“If”.
     
    In the past, it becomes “If only…”. In the future it becomes “What if ….?”.
     
    In some cases, these expressions can be beneficial or bad for our health.
     
    For example, “If only such and such had not happened” is a thought that can be stressful and become unhealthy. It might also yield some thoughts which can be beneficial to us in our thinking, provided that it creates no reaction from our Guardian in trying to defend us from a danger which does not exist. 
     
    The thoughts related to the future: “What if I did this or that?”, or, “Suppose this or that happened?”, creates our power of reasoning and planning, which is the great benefit of our imagination.
     
    However, “What if I fail at such and such?” may very likely be stressful to us and regarded as a danger by our Guardian.
     
    Understanding how the river of time flows and its effects is crucial to our appreciation of ourselves and where we are in relation to time itself.
     
    Using the power of our imagination benefits us greatly, especially the concept of staying in that imaginary place, the present.
     
    We cannot change the reality of the past, the present or the future. 

     

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    be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purposes. This information should not be
    used as a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your health care
    provider before making any healthcare decisions or for guidance about a specific medical
    condition. The Preventatists Incorporated, its members, writers and editors expressly disclaim
    responsibility, and shall have no liability, for any damages, loss, injury, or liability whatsoever
    suffered as a result of your reliance on the information contained in this site. The Preventatists
    Incorporated, its members, writers and editors do not endorse specifically any test, treatment,
    device, or procedure, or study results mentioned on the site.

     

    THE SPLENDID SELF

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    THE SPLENDID SELF

    For as long as people have had developed minds, and evolved imagination, they have sought to know more about themselves.

    The most important aspects of self-seeking are the pursuit of fresh air, water, food, shelter, and clothing (warmth), in that order of importance. 

    Once those essentials are catered for, thoughts might turn inwards and wonder about the nature of self.    brain with measuring tape

    Psychologists and philosophers have generated millions of words on the subject of self.

    Many religions and other spiritual philosophies have tried to define the person or individual as many things; some devoted to gaining control over that individual, by subjugating the self, into a greater whole, usually using the purported sayings of some god or other.

    Such teaching becomes useful to those seeking power over others, for example by threatening some dreadful outcome after death if a person does not abide by certain rules, which are purported to be God-derived, but which are usually contrived by some leader or prophet.

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    (It has been written that if only humans could fully accept that there is, nor ever has been, any connection between this world in which we live for a short time, and the world, if any, after death claims us, we would be far happier in our regard for ourselves as a species.) 

    Sometimes, religious teaching may be devoted to providing a means to assist all members of a community by demanding or encouraging selfless acts and intentions among their followers. Often to the good of all.

    As for Preventatists, we propose that in defending against the stresses of life, all else becomes self-evident.

    Preventatism does not challenge any religious principle, nor is it a religion, or in any way spiritual.

     

     

     

    Preventatism is a prophylactic philosophy, which, if followed, defends the mind and body of the user against the effects of the stresses of life, and the mayhem they can cause within the individual body. Therefore, the only interest that Preventatism has, is in offering and providing that defence where it is sought.

    The principles are based on long experience and thought concerning stress and its outcomes, observation plus the growing realisation in medical circles that stress does have an influence in matters of human health and wellness.

    Each individual person has experiences from the day of their conception which influence their view and opinions about life in general, their own place in it, and their assessment of themselves. The acquisition of knowledge and participation in the adventures of their own lives, provides them with their assessments and feelings about their position in life.

    Some of these will be negative and suppress any natural optimism they may have had about themselves and their value to others.

    To an experienced Preventatist this outcome is part of that plan we talked about.

    We have experience of teaching these Preventatists principles to many people, at many ages and stages of life, from age 4 or 5 years to age 80 plus. Thus, we have seen many individuals approach the principles.

    Some have found them difficult to understand and follow. It seems that the origins of these doubts have been based upon religious beliefs, although people holding many religious principles have been able to accept the teachings of Preventatism. Others have accepted and used them to the great benefit of their health and wellbeing.

    Since we Preventatists see a plan being unfolded in life, it is easy to appreciate that every person has a part to play in its unfolding story.

    There are no exceptions.

    Each human being plays a part in the whole, and so is vital to the telling. Without the input of any person, the story told would be entirely changed, and the input of all of us influences many others.

    The quantity of that influence is varied and is allied to the part we all play, but each actor in the performance of life’s drama is vital. Without each person, the plan would take a completely different path.

    From this assumption, the knowledge flows easily that each person has a great worth, and should regard themselves as such; valuable, desirable, and utterly necessary to Life and its continual development.

    Each of us might accept the notion that:

    “I am the most important person in the universe. There is nobody more important than me!”

    The acceptance of this premise directly influences the individual’s attitude and responses to and from their Guardian, which, in turn, influences their health and wellness.

    Our personal Guardians are devoted to the health and well-being of each individual and are under no doubt as to the importance of that devotion, and will pursue it with fidelity, speed, commitment, and allegiance.

    We have witnessed many examples of this devotion and action.

    A committed belief in self is a most powerful tool in our seeking after the happiness associated with continual health and wellness.

    Seek this belief for yourself and adopt the fullest extent of its usefulness to you and your Life.

    There is a statement which may assist you in this endeavour to see yourself as vital and important.

     

    Am I as ugly as people say?

    Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think

    Beauty does exist within me

    And I am in no position to believe that

    I am not good enough to be loved

    Because no matter what

    I still deserve love

    And nothing you say will make me believe

    That I am a worthless, terrible person

    So rest assured I will remind myself

    There is beauty inside of me that matters

    And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying

    I hate myself in every single way

    Because at the end of the day

    I am a very beautiful person

    So don’t try to convince me that

    I’m very ugly

    I’m very ugly

    So don’t try to convince me that

    I am a very beautiful person

    Because at the end of the day

    I hate myself in every single way

    And I’m not going to lie to myself by saying

    There is beauty inside of me that matters

    So rest assured I will remind myself

    That I am a worthless, terrible person

    And nothing you say will make me believe

    I still deserve love

    Because no matter what

    I am not good enough to be loved

    And I am in no position to believe that

    Beauty does exist within me

    Because whenever I look in the mirror I always think

    Am I as ugly as people say?

           If you decide to equip yourself with only one thing through your Life, then let it be the thought that you are ...

       The most important person ... not only where you are at present, but in the    whole world.

    There is nobody more important than You are.

                                                Without You, the whole Universal Grand Plan would not be possible.

     

     

     

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    be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purposes. This information should not be
    used as a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your health care
    provider before making any healthcare decisions or for guidance about a specific medical
    condition. The Preventatists Incorporated, its members, writers and editors expressly disclaim
    responsibility, and shall have no liability, for any damages, loss, injury, or liability whatsoever
    suffered as a result of your reliance on the information contained in this site. The Preventatists
    Incorporated, its members, writers and editors do not endorse specifically any test, treatment,
    device, or procedure, or study results mentioned on the site.

     

     

     

     

    PREPARING DEFENCES

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    PREPARE TO DEFEND YOURSELF!

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    Our imaginary defence strategy or mechanism begins with an illusion of the human body as a castle.

    A castle was constructed to defend a place or group from outside attack and seemed to be a useful idea to begin constructing a person’s defence.

    (It should be kept in mind that everyone has a unique imagination and therefore stress reaction. This is one of the reasons why researching stress and its effects is so difficult for science. Scientific research needs stable and reliable bases to start from!)

    So, each person begins by constructing their own castle, either from experiences or just from pictures of castles.

    Castles have similar features. High walls and strong gates defended by drawbridges, a moat and bailey and an inner keep.

    The word 'castle' comes from an English word 'castel', which referred to a village. Some villages were fortified, with walls to keep attackers out, but in times of peace the village expanded outside the walls, leaving only the central part fortified.

    In our Preventatist castle, some people are allowed inside the gates in imagination, and they are selected by each person. These people are allowed inside the outer parts within the walls, but never to be allowed inside the inner keep.

    Only the individual imagining this castle can enter this part. The people allowed in, are usually relatives and close friends, but can be ejected by the castle owner anytime if they cease to be wanted there.

    The numbers of people in this outer part of the castle, is entirely up to the individual. The whole world may be invited in, or only a few.

    When a person is constructing this imaginary place, the mind in imagination can do whatever it likes in building it. Over time, it might become a design that can be changed if you want to.

     

    In imagination, the castle has staff including, for example, five guards, guard 2who watch from the highest parts of the castle. They represent touch, taste, sight, sound, and smell, and are continually on watch for attackers -real dangers – to the castle.

    Within the castle there are millions of rooms. These represent the cells of the individual and must be continually serviced. They need to have oxygen delivered to them every two minutes or so, food supplied regularly, and waste taken away.

    As these rooms (cells) age, they need replacement or maintenance, so that a huge body of servants supply all this work living and labouring in this castle.

    To manage the whole structure there is a castle manager, and it is this imaginary person with whom the individual owner of the castle needs to communicate.

    Once a person has constructed this imaginary place, it tends to take care of itself, but remains in the background of the person’s imagination. After all, it has all been going on since the person was conceived!

    Remember the ideal. To defend against those stresses of life in an effective and capable manner, so that unwellness is not allowed to start.

    Please try now to construct your refuge, your castle in which you can live and enjoy your life.

    Try it. If it works for you …. great! …….. If it doesn’t, don’t despair, just keep looking for the system that suits you best.

     

     

    If you are ready, go on to the next segment, where we talk about managing your castle.   Click here

     

     

     

     

    The medical information on this site is provided as an information resource only, and is not to
    be used or relied on for any diagnostic or treatment purposes. This information should not be
    used as a substitute for professional diagnosis or treatment. Please consult your health care
    provider before making any healthcare decisions or for guidance about a specific medical
    condition. The Preventatists Incorporated, its members, writers and editors expressly disclaim
    responsibility, and shall have no liability, for any damages, loss, injury, or liability whatsoever
    suffered as a result of your reliance on the information contained in this site. The Preventatists
    Incorporated, its members, writers and editors do not endorse specifically any test, treatment,
    device, or procedure, or study results mentioned on the site.

     

     

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